02410cam a2200313 i 4500 365861932 TxAuBib 20180510120000.0 170802s2017||||||||||||||||||||||||eng|u 9781250132253 1250132258 (OCoLC)1001355269 TxAuBib rda Gopnik, Alison. The gardener and the carpenter : what the new science of child development tells us about the relationship between parents and children. First Picador edition. New York : Picador, Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 2017. x, 302 pages ; 21 cm. txt rdacontent n rdamedia nc rdacarrier Includes bibliographical references (pages 265-287) and index. Introduction: The parent paradoxes -- Against parenting -- The evolution of childhood -- The evolution of love -- Learning through looking -- Learning through listening -- The work of play -- Growing up -- The future and the past : children and technology -- The value of children. Caring deeply about our children is part of what makes us human. Yet the thing we call 'parenting' is a surprisingly new invention. In the past thirty years, the concept of parenting and the multibillion dollar industry surrounding it have transformed child care into obsessive, controlling, and goal-oriented labor intended to create a particular kind of child and therefore a particular kind of adult. In The Gardener and the Carpenter, the pioneering developmental psychologist and philosopher Alison Gopnik argues that the familiar twenty-first-century picture of parents and children is profoundly wrong--it's not just based on bad science, it's bad for kids and parents, too. Drawing on the study of human evolution and her own cutting-edge scientific research into how children learn, Gopnik shows that although caring for children is profoundly important, it is not a matter of shaping them to turn out a particular way. Children are designed to be messy and unpredictable, playful and imaginative, and to be very different both from their parents and from each other. -- Back cover. 20180510. Developmental psychology. Child psychology. Parenting.